Partner’s support community
Dealing with limerence betrayal
Is your partner obsessed with someone else?
Do you feel confused by the sudden distance, the lack of empathy, or the sense that the person you love has changed?
When your partner is in a limerent episode, it can feel deeply destabilizing and lonely.
We are building a community to support partners of limerents, with expert feedback, clear strategies, and emotional support from people who truly understand.
Support from limerence experts
Private community of people who know what you are going through
Resources to help you find a path forwards (even if it isn't clear where it leads yet)
Find the help you need
Everyone's situation is unique, but some questions are universal:
What's happened to them?
How should I respond?
Can I save the relationship?
How do I protect myself? (and maybe your children)
How can I get through to them?
What about my emotions?
And all these problems have to be faced at the same time...
What is this project about?
After many years of hearing from people whose marriages and long-term relationships have been devastated by limerence, we know that there are very few resources specifically aimed at the betrayed partner.
Our goal is to build a community for people whose long-term relationships have been damaged by limerence, to share their experiences, ask questions of experts, and make sense of what's happening to their partner and themselves.
This will be a private community for partners only, not a venue for couple's therapy.
Expert support
Ask the experts about how limerence has affected your partner's behaviour and your relationship.
Private community
Discuss your situation with others who understand what you are going through. Learn what works and what doesn't when trying to make progress.
Tactical resources
Online courses, guides, and case studies, on how to overcome some of the hardest problems that limerence creates for relationships.
About us
We are limerence experts with complementary skills in neuroscience, psychology and therapy, and many years of experience helping both limerents and non-limerents navigate the consequences of destructive infatuation on long-term relationships.
Fenna van den Berg
Fenna is a highly experienced schema therapist with over 25 years of clinical practice, specializing in trauma, attachment issues, and obsessive relational patterns such as limerence. She has helped countless clients understand how emotional wounds that fuel limerence and attachment struggles can destabilize long-term relationships.
Tom Bellamy
Tom is an academic neuroscientist and creator of livingwithlimerence.com, one of the most trusted resources on limerence worldwide. He is an honorary Associate Professor at the University of Nottingham, and author of the book, Smitten: Romantic obsession, the neuroscience of limerence, and how to make love last.
Join the community waitlist
Sign up to find out more
We plan to launch the community in Spring 2026. To get notified about progress and receive an invite to the online launch event, please complete this short survey to let us know that you are interested.
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What is the biggest problem you hope to solve?
Pick the option that best describes your major concern
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How much would you like these potential community features?
Select an option for how useful you think these services would be
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Weekly Q&A sessions with Fenna and Tom | |||
Community support (private forum) | |||
Tactical resources (courses, case studies, etc.) | |||
Interviews with other relationship experts |
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How much would you expect to pay to be a member of this community?
Select the monthly fee that seems right to you
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Sign up to the waitlist
Many thanks for your feedback, add your email and name below and we will add you to the waitlist and keep you updated on the next stages.
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Thank you!
We've added your name to the list and will be in touch again soon
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