The impact of limerence on a long-term relationship can be devastating. 

Discovering that your partner has developed limerence for someone else throws the past, present and future into doubt. 

I've written about this nightmare many times in the past, and there are ideas and resources to help scattered across the Living with Limerence site, but I'm aware that it would be much more valuable to have a well-designed, practical system that tackles the problem head on.  

That's the goal of this project.

From all the correspondence I've received from betrayed partners over the years, the majority face three big issues: 

  1. Their partner's personality and behaviour seems to have changed dramatically
  2. They hit communication roadblocks when trying to find out what's happened 
  3. They don't know what they can do to improve the situation

Many suffering partners respond by trying to give more of themselves: 

I have done a deep dive to learn how to work through this with my wife, the best that I can. I want to be able to show empathy, compassion, and support, while I am currently dying a little each day - Giovanni

Giovanni's instinct is admirable, but it also means he's taking yet more pain upon himself. To make that sacrifice count, it's important to focus your personal determination on actions that work.

That requires a system that helps you:

  • Make sense of the limerent's behaviour
  • Break through any communication barriers
  • Diagnose what you can do to help fix the problem


    • I want to build that system, and need your help. 

    If your partner's limerence is damaging your relationship, please fill in the survey below to help me gather good information about what is really needed to help solve the problem:

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