Are you ready to rise from the ashes & finally claim the life that's yours - bold, abundant, & free?
The Phoenix is your next evolution:
A private membership for women ready to stop shrinking, stop pleasing, and start creating their next era - in unforgettable company.
THE PHOENIX ISN'T A SUPPORT GROUP.
IT'S AN UPRISING.
You've tried to change.
You've tried to change, but the old patterns still loop. The people still drain you. And that woman you long to be - the one you keep catching glimpses of - still feels out of reach.
That ends here.
The Phoenix is where women rise together. Where you are held, seen, and led.
And week by week, you become the woman who doesn't just survive your story -
You rewrite it.
THIS IS FOR YOU IF:
- You've outgrown your old life, but don't know what comes next
- You crave more truth, more depth, more fuck-yes energy
- You want sisterhood, without the spiritual bypass fluff
- You're done being the fixer, the pleaser, the good girl
- You're ready to stop performing and start ruling - like the Queen of your own life
- You want real strategies you can use in the messy, in-the-moment challenges
- You're ready to take radical responsibility for your life.
- You want to learn how to be free of guilt, worry, fear, anxiety, and finally feel happy, content, and at peace
INVESTMENT
$97/Month
No contract. Cancel anytime.
- But let's be real - once you taste what it feels like to have support, strategies & sisterhood, you won't want to leave.
- Less than a night out.
- Less than another pair of jeans you don't ever wear.
- A fraction of what staying stuck is already costing you.
WHAT YOU GET INSIDE THE PHOENIX
- LIVE PHOENIX SESSIONS (2x/month) Not just calls, these are soul-stirring councils. Community, accountability, and strategies where illusions burn, clarity rises, and you walk away different. (Times rotate to accommodate multiple time zones)
- COACHING HOT SEAT (1x/month) Bring your biggest challenge or your greatest vision and I'll coach you into a breakthrough. You'll also witness other women doing it too, and walk away with inspiration, motivation & a reminder of who the fuck you are.
THE FIRELINE. A private Telegram Channel where Valerie drops unfiltered truth, prompts, and power transmissions straight into your ear. No fluff, no filler - just fire when you need it most.
THE PHOENIX CIRCLE. An intimate, off-socials chat space for sisterhood, shares, and accountability. Transformation actually happens when it's witnessed.
MONTHLY MISSIONS. Each month, one potent theme. One bold challenge. One focus that shakes the dust off your old patterns and delivers tangible shifts, fast.
Are you done fixing everyone else and ready to finally rise for yourself?
I’m Valerie, the firestarter behind The Selfish Woman movement. I don't do small talk, safe advice, or paint-by-numbers healing. I build rooms where women burn down the good-girl script and rise from their own damn ashes.
I've led thousands of women through transformation, and every circle begins the same way:
You tell the truth. You drop the mask. You rise.
I'm not here to fix you. I'm here to hand you the match and stand with you while you light it all up.
Author of The Selfish Year (Jossey-Bass, 2025)
Host of The Selfish Woman Podcast
Founder of The Selfish Woman movement
HERE’S WHAT MY CLIENTS AND STUDENTS HAVE TO SAY:
“I had come to the end of myself, I was experiencing deep exhaustion. I sort of woke up for a moment and thought I don’t actually have to live like this, and by chance Val seemed to magically appear. I listened to one of her podcasts and I felt a tingle of hope rising by what she was saying. Her words felt genuine to me, like she had truly walked what she talked. I would say my biggest challenge has been over functioning. It led me to a breakdown, I see this as a gift, a choice to reset. Val gave me a framework and a safe container to go after a new path, and I gave myself permission to invest in myself and my growth. I have tools for when I feel completely overwhelmed, and I can take a step back and see choices. I’m learning that it’s ok to not be ok and that change takes time. Val is intuitive, she gets it, she’s been where we’ve been. She has great compassion and understanding and knows deeply that change takes time and helped me realize that small daily shifts add up to big shifts in time. I couldn’t wait for the teaching and am so hungry for change. Deeply grateful for Val and her inspiration.”
Nathalie
“Val, you are amazing and working with you is life changing. I finally feel unstuck and like I can move forward as me!”
Nancy
“The best thing I’ve ever done for myself is work with you. You are awesome! So much learning in a short time already!”
Susan
“I’ve literally learned how to be the leader of my own life. I found such value in her very open, honest and intuitive approach. Many breakthrough experiences left me in awe at times.”
Barb
“I look forward to every session with Val. She does a wonderful job establishing a safe space and keeping the focus on positive healing and sharing. It was a life changing experience!”
Shannon
“Val’s coaching has become invaluable to me in the past year. I will continue to work with her guiding me in my future endeavors. She is my modern day Shaman. Her work’s value far surpasses, for me, what I expected.”
Kate
FAQs
$97.00/month
No refunds.
To cancel your membership, send an email to Valerie at [email protected] 5 weekdays prior to your membership renewal for the month. If we receive your request in less than 5 weekdays prior we can not guarantee you will not be charged for the month as it takes time for the system to process your cancellation.
Upon registering you will receive an email with Telegram links and Zoom link for all calls. Please email [email protected] for any questions about accessing the membership.