Week 1; Current Understanding, Beliefs and Cultural Conditioning

We will investigate the current understanding, beliefs and cultural conditioning we have around birth and becoming a father. Identifying any personal experiences & events, societal stories & expectations or common myths & misconceptions we have that negatively affect our perception and feeling towards the exciting adventure we are embarking on.

Week 2; Fears

Now we dive deep into the specific fears we have about birth and becoming a father.

Going through a somatic session to process and release any emotions attached to them.

Then psychologically we begin to rewire and reprogram our neurology in relationship to them.

So we can alchemise any unhealthy and unnecessary fear, into respect, reverence & radical responsibility, this becoming the fuel and power we need, to become the man and father we want to be.

Week 3; Father Wound/Relationship

Our relationship to becoming a father, starts with the relationship we have to our father. Did we receive the love we wanted and deserved as a child? What habits and behaviours did he model? What stories and beliefs did we develop about ourselves and what a father is, or isn’t? And most importantly how did that affect us emotionally? And what emotions do we still carry with us today? Anger, Resentment, Disappointment, Guilt, Shame, Grief.

Our aim in this session is to: Identify some of these thought patterns and how they may be affecting us. Release some of the intense emotion connected to them. Reframe and Reposition ourselves in relationship to our father and in becoming a father. Rewriting the story of what it means to be a father. And creating our own map & compass to guide us.

Week 4; Rites of Passage & Practical Preparation

Throughout evolution & human history, birth and becoming a father has been regarded as a sacred Rite of Passage. With a diverse variety of traditions and rituals practiced by different cultures all over the planet, not only to mark & celebrate this special time, but also intentionally support & guide those people through the process. Preparing them for the journey ahead.

Part One; Exploring & Discussing Rites of Passage and the archetypal shift from Man to Father. Reclaiming the journey as a sacred initiation and intentionally planning strategic rituals & events to mark important milestones and assist with initiating & integrating the hugely important & immense changes.

Part Two; Practical Preparation. When it comes to birth, less is more. And we know it’s best left undisturbed and uncontrolled. Although we can not, and should not, control the outcome or process of birth, we can do a lot to create the best environment and prepare for it. In this section we’ll talk about what to do, what to get, when to get it, and why. There’ll be check sheets, to-do lists, and step-by-step processes. From pregnancy exercises to postnatal food prep. What you should, could, or might want at the Birth. What things you can get or can do to make the environment and experience as safe, as comfortable and as enjoyable as possible for your partner, yourself, and your baby.

Week 5; Pregnancy. Trimesters 1, 2 & 3

We will dive into the pregnancy process, breaking it down into the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd trimesters.

Find out what is going on for your partner and what is happening with your babies development.

Learning the best ways we can support her, assist that development and connect with our baby at every given stage.

Plus what practical processes and preparations we could be doing and when.

Week 6; Birth Choices, People & Projections, Boundaries & Protection

Regardless of where or how you choose to birth, people will have their own opinions and beliefs. Regardless of how well informed, prepared, or sure you are, people will judge and disagree. I wish I could say that everyone will just respect and support your decisions. That’s rarely the case, in any situation, and unfortunately especially with birth.

Once we get clear on your partners birth choices. Plan A, Plan B, Plan C and Plan D. We will discuss how to navigate conversations with friends and family. How and when to implement the correct boundaries around your birth and postnatal. The language and coercion to watch out for if dealing with medical personal and pressurising people.

Basically we will arm you with all the information, tools and techniques you need to protect your partner, making you the front line of defence from any unnecessary and unsupportive actions and interactions that could negatively affect her physically, mentally and emotionally during this special and sensitive time.

Week 7; Birth Physiology, Hormonal Matrix, Stages of Labour

Birth is a natural biological and psychological process that has perfectly evolved over millions of years, and has proven perfectly efficient and effective for thousands & thousands of generations. It certainly is not an inherently dangerous event to be feared, or a medical emergency.

Together we will uncover the beauty of this natural unfolding process and the intrinsic intelligence of both birth and the body. Gaining a deeper understanding of the entire journey and the incredible biological & psychological processes that take place throughout the different stages of labour.

Through this understanding you will be able to develop a deep trust in the process so you can remain present, calm and collected during it. You will also learn the best things you can do to help support it and give your baby & partner the most comfortable environment and experience possible.

Although birth is a completely natural process that is consistent across the entire human race regardless of nationality, culture or status, it is also a very personal experience, with each woman, baby and birth being completely unique, so we will also discuss the different variations of normal, certain situations or circumstances that may occur, and what you and your partner might want, or not want, to do in the case of A, B, C or D.

Plan for the best. Prepare for the worst. Although i prefer, plan for the best, be aware of the worst, prepare for them all.

Week 8; Golden Hour, Initial Bonding & Attachment

The first hour of life once being born is arguably one of, if not, the most important of our entire lives. So many important processes and functions occur during this precious time necessary for the optimal bonding and attachment between mother, baby and yourself.

What happens during those first few seconds, minutes and hours will contribute to the successful establishment of breastfeeding, the important exchange of microbiome and immune system strengthening, the first prevention of Postnatal depression and can affect both the mother and baby either positively or negatively for the rest of their lives.

Along with that, these first moments, memories and hours spent as a family, connecting, admiring and getting to know your baby can, and should be, some of the most beautiful, magical and memorable you ever have.

We discuss whats important, whats not, and all of your options, so you can plan and prepare for how your partner wants this incredibly important and special time to look for her and your family.

Week 9; Postpartum & Postnatal

Your partner has just been though the biggest, most intense and most extreme experience of her life, physically, mentally and emotionally. Over last 9 months or so her body has been a vessel for life, completely and consistently changing, working every minute of everyday to grow and develop your baby. This is a long, tiresome and uncomfortably journey. Only to then go through the incredible initiation that is birth. The most powerful and primal of all experiences. To finally bring new life, a brand new living, breathing human being into the world. She deserves rest, she needs rest.

In this module we highlight the importance of the postpartum period. What comfort measures, support and aftercare should be put in place to best assist in the healing process. Ensuring as best we can that our partner, and the mother of our newborn child, not only has the best chance possible of healing physically, but also is able to integrate the experience, navigate the ongoing hormonal changes, feel supported both mentally and emotionally, so she can focus all of her energy on what she is needed for and wants most, caring for her baby.

It’s now reported that up to 85 percent of new mothers will experience the postpartum blues. Around one in seven women will develop postpartum depression. And in the first year after birth, this increases to around 15–20% of women experiencing postpartum depression.

This is not a woman problem, a mother problem or a natural problem.  This is a societal problem, a cultural problem and a created problem! Women and Mothers aren’t broken, they aren’t getting weaker or less capable. Society has become increasingly unnatural, disconnected, misinformed and misguided. So mothers are experiencing more external pressure and being less supported.

It doesn’t have to be that way. And it's up to us, individually & collectively, to stop it. Starting one birth, one baby, and one mumma at a time.

Week 10; Longterm Biological Bonding & Attachment, Relationship Foundations & Intimacy

We separate this week into two sections. The relationship you as parents have with your baby and how to cultivate the strongest bond possible, so they grow up feeling safe & secure. And the relationship you have with each other, as a co-parenting couple, which will become the foundation of that child's life, and your greatest strength & ally.

In part one we’ll explore the biological principles behind bonding with your baby, together with the hormonal & biochemical processes that support it. We’ll also discuss some of the short term and long lasting psychological impacts of these, including the concept of attachment theory.

Most importantly we will learn about the simple, natural and important actions & behaviours that create a healthy bond and strong secure attachment. Simple things that have developed naturally throughout our evolution, things forgotten and ignored by our modern societies, but things we can easily reintroduce to provide the most supportive environment for our developing baby to thrive.

Part two covers the bond you have with each other as a couple, and as parents. It’s true that having children will change your life forever, and your relationship. The things you used to do, the time you used to have and how your life and relationship used to look, will, and should all change. Navigating this alongside nurturing and raising children can be challenging and overwhelming.

Together we discuss things you can do to continue to grow & strengthen your relationship, deepen your connection as a couple, and retain & enjoy intimacy as parents.

Week 11; Nervous System, Regulation & Co-regulation

One of the most undervalued elements for living a calm, balanced and happy life is an understanding of the nervous system and how to regulate, support & strengthen it. This becomes even more important and apparent as parents.

We will start by outlining what the nervous system is and how it operates.

We will discuss how it affects our lives individually, different ways we can manage it and some activities & practices we can use to improve & strengthen it.

We will then talk about how this looks collectively, as a intertwine family unit, covering the topic of co-regulation and interdependence.

Week 12; Q&A

In the final week we will offer time for integration and introspection.

Allowing space for any more individual questions, queries, challenges or circumstances to be answered and discussed.

This session has been deliberately left open to provide this specific person or group exactly what they want or need.

The intention is to cover any area requiring additional attention and make sure any unique needs have been met.

So every man feels ready, confident and excited to continue his own Journey of Fatherhood.

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